Narcissistic abuse is emotional, verbal abuse, gaslighting, manipulation and nervous system dysregulation. This abuse is suffered in romantic and platonic relationships. There are two types of narcissists: covert and overt. This abuse can be perpetrated by someone who is not a narcissist but has tendencies, so a diagnosis of narcissism to the offending party isn't required. These individuals over all lack empathy.
Overt narcissists are individuals that are more easily spotted. They are the ones who boast about themselves, take up all the oxygen in the room and openly manipulate those around them to get what they want. Often these people have superficial relationships and see people as a means to an end.
Covert narcissists are individuals who are less easily spotted. The are the ones who get others to do their dirty work for them, act one way in public and another at home, and use 'behind the scene' manipulation to get what they want. Often gaslighting by family and friends (secondary gaslighting) is prominent with these individuals- "He/She is so nice, I don't know what you are talking about!" Sound familiar?
Therapists at Onyx will work with you on identifying your wounds that attracted the narcissist and help heal them, so you no longer welcome these types of people in your life. The goal is for you to heal your sense of self that has been taken away and find healthy relationships in the future.